Discipline

Any dream can be realized with self discipline. We must command our mind. Discipline should not be seen as a punishment, but rather as a definition of self love and the ultimate key to all material success. We have to win the war in our mind in order to win the war in the world.

Self discipline is self love, to discipline your behavior to bring forward success, achieve your dreams, live up to your highest potential. Living in a way where we are not subjected to others opinions of us and we are not following what society says we should be. 

It’s your responsibility alone to fulfill your life, take the responsibility to make things work for you. You are the only one that can bring happiness and success in your life. Define yourself, set  your boundaries, set your foundations, set your standards for the life you want. Then start creating it, laying one brick at a time, on a daily basis. Be fully immersed in that creation, so that nothing and no one can take it from you. 

You have to have tunnel vision to get to where you want to be, create yourself and the life you dream of having. 

 

 

Ignorance is not Bliss

 

Timothy discusses with his audience the myriad academic qualifications that he has, from Electrical Engineering at MIT to Graduate Study in Ministry and Counselling and then his career experiences, that span from Silicon Valley to the Youth educational centre he co-founded. He moved on to share how, even he, who has counselled so many people on their emotional issues, found himself with same problems one day. He talks about how short term temptations can be disguised as our true desires and value. Timothy Lee obtained his undergraduate degree in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science from Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) and studied communications and classical languages at the graduate level. He started as a computer systems engineer in the Silicon Valley and later on, decided to take on teaching as his lifelong career. In 2008, he cofounded CANA Elite, an education centre that mentors HK youth and adolescents in the STEM field. In the past years, CANA has won the HSBC Young Business Gold award as well as the HK Home Affairs Bureau’s Family-Friendly Employers award. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.

 

Cambodia’s Rape Culture

One Woman’s Story

Mao, 18, is from Pursat, a small village with a few hundred families. Through a translator at the Cambodian Women’s Crisis Center in the capital of Phnom Phen, she says she is too ashamed to say her last name.

“There was a wedding in Pursat, and I went to participate,” she says. “At the wedding this man asked me to dance and I went to dance with him.”

The man then said he had a friend with a question for her, and he led her from the wedding to a field nearby.

“When he dragged me out, there was his two friends with him and three more were waiting in the fields,” Mao says.

Two of the men raped her before others were alerted by her screams. Eight days later, she told her story from a safe house.

What happened to Mao has a name in Cambodia: bauk. Its literal translation means “plus,” but it also means gang rape, a chilling social phenomenon among young men in the city.

A few years ago, a local nongovernmental organization put together a video of victims and perpetrators. In the video, one voice is distorted to hide the victim’s identity. This girl says she was raped and sodomized by four men in a guest house. The next morning, she says, she called the police, but they told her she had no evidence.

‘Socially Acceptable’

David Wilkinson, a consultant living in Cambodia, and his colleagues were studying condom usage among college boys in 2002 when they found that bauk was a socially accepted form of recreation for young middle-class Khmer men.

“They described it as a situation where one or two young men would procure the services of, generally, a street-based sex worker, then they would take her to a guest house to have sex, and when they got there they would have arranged for between four and 10 of their friends to be waiting,” Wilkinson says. “And they would coerce or try and induce the woman to have sex with all of them. Very often she was verbally or physically abused and would then be subsequently gang raped.”

Generally, bauk happens to sex workers, but it can also happen to what the men in Wilkinson’s studies call “normal” girls — girls like Mao.

“There is growing indication that the groups of victims extend now beyond those involved in sex work, and we’ve got stories of school girls, garment factory workers, middle-class young women being gang raped,” Wilkinson says.

Napsarin Sreynoth, the secretary general of the Cambodian Women’s Crisis Center, says prostitutes don’t seek help in their shelters because they think bauk is part of their job. But other bauk victims, like Mao, do come.

“Some victim, they are under 15 years old,” says Tong Sophrach, who worked with Wilkinson on the initial research. “Every month that we receive the gang rape or rape bauk and the victim — they are from Pursat, Kompang, Chnnam. It everywhere happen in Cambodia.”

Tong says they interviewed taxi drivers in rural areas and found evidence of bauk in at least 21 of Cambodia’s 24 provinces. Tong adds that the young men who commit the rapes think it’s funny.

Possible Explanations For ‘Bauk’ Proliferation

Wilkinson says there are many possible reasons why bauk has proliferated. Many believe it’s a male-bonding experience: It costs about $15 to hire a prostitute for the night and paying for just one prostitute saves money. There are also few recreational opportunities for young people.

Wilkinson says the bauk phenomenon may be linked to the genocide in 1975-1979, when up to 1.5 million people died from starvation, disease or execution.

“It’s difficult to say whether this phenomenon is a result of the deprivations imposed by the Khmer Rouge regime, but what you’ve got is a generation of young people now whose parents didn’t really experience adolescence and so have no real models or norms on which to base how to be good parents,” he says. “And it’s possible this has had an effect on how they relate to their sons.”

In addition, Wilkinson says, bauk may be triggered by the kind of pornography available in Phnom Penh, which he says is the worst that researchers have seen.

‘An Aberration Of Khmer Society’

The government, however, blames outside influences.

“Rape itself is very often happening in Cambodia due to the influence of the Western culture with the illegal entry or import of pornography film,” says You Ay, from the Ministry of Women’s Affairs.

But many fault the government for not denouncing bauk more publicly. Tong says that while there have been arrests, he knows of no prosecutions specifically for bauk. Wilkinson, who has lived in Cambodia for a decade, says he believes a high-level government condemnation of bauk could begin to solve the problem.

“It’s really just an aberration of Khmer society, and so as such, it wouldn’t be difficult for the political leaders to put a stop to it,” he says. “With the backing of senior levels of government this would happen.”

In Wilkinson’s follow-up research, he asked young people what most concerned them. The girls’ responses were all about avoiding rape.

“The interview with the boys was more intriguing,” he says. “They wanted to know how they could either coerce or bribe the girl afterward not to take action against them.”

A famous adage in Cambodia says that men are gold and women are cloth. The former is easily cleaned; the latter easily stained. Mao says she feels this stain. She is angry and ashamed.

“Everybody, you know, none of us are perfect and I also feel it’s my fault because I wanted to go to the wedding,” Mao says.

For now at least, Mao says she can’t go home. “I do not dare to think about the future,” she says.

https://www.peacewomen.org/content/cambodia-gang-rape-pervasive-across-cambodia

 

Wheel of Life

The Wheel of Life is a simple but powerful tool that helps you visualize all the important areas of your life at once. It is often used by coaches and career coaches to give their clients a “bird’s eye” view of their lives. You can use this too to understand more about your life and where you need grow – just a little bit more.

These are the 8 areas in which you need to score yourself. Add up all your scores and divide by 8 to get your average overall rating.

 

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Today I will share with you my rating on the Wheel of Life: 29 SEPTEMBER 2019

Average 4.6 scoring. This means that I have a lot of work to do in certain areas of my life as there is  lack of balance.

Family: 6/10
I need to work a lot harder to grow my relationship with my family.
Solution: Call once a month, Visit every 2 years
Friends: Few friends, but good friends. To be more grateful to have them on my life.
My idea needs to change from absolute to flexible.

Romance: 1/10
Still single, seeking the right person to marry and have a family.
I will not rush into this as this will be a lifetime commitment. I will wait until the time and person is right while working on myself to be the right person for someone.
Business/Career: 4/10
Work very hard in gaining momentum in my career to achieve a promotion.
Learn planning, category management, brand management, digital marketing, e-commerce sales
Follow my dreams:
Become a lawyer
Build multiple businesses
Additional Coaching courses, build more clients

Personal Growth: 7/10
Reading, Motivation, Improve Business Skills
Learn Arabic, Dutch
Contribute more to society to build a positive life specifically for women/children

Finances: 3/10
Increase savings, build investment portfolio
Build retirement plan

Physical Environment: 4/10
Be vigilant of surroundings, learn to protect self (self-defense lessons)
Plan for retirement, country, home – safety first, low taxation, low cost of living, good medical aid

Health: 8/10
Gym 6 hours per week to participate in IFBB Elite Pro Women’s Physique
Keep to strict diet schedule

Jim Rohn – How to Take Charge of Your Life

I have watched many motivational videos, however Jim Rohn has to be one of the best motivational speakers that I have come across. His wisdom and philosophy involves a full change for oneself in order to reach your goals.

Famous Quotes:

Never wish life were easier, wish that you were better.

If you don’t like how things are, change it! You are not a tree.

The only way it gets better for you is when you get better. Better is not something you wish, it’s something you become.

Some Jim Rohn’s success philosophies include:

  1. Set Your Sail – or in other words the way we think. The greatest challenge of life is to control the process of our own thinking.
  2. Learn from Success and Failure – Study those that do well do what they do and learn from the failures of other people.
  3. Read all you can – Take head to those that have taken the time to write the principles of success that have guided them.
  4. Keep a Journal – Jim Rohn states, “This is one of the best guides for making good decisions”
  5. Observe and Listen – Pay attention and watch what is going on around you.
  6. Be Disciplined – With careful mental preparation we can make wise choices.
  7. Don’t Neglect – Neglect is the major reason why people don’t have what they want.

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Celebrate your Achievements

Life is not always about working hard and trying to push your boundaries.

Sometimes, we have to stop and take a look and all that we have achieved.

I take a look at my past 10 years of achievements, and without a doubt, I am proud of how far I have come and everything i have achieved up until now.

We need to have goals, dreams and to live life with purpose.

Success is not defined by how much money you have, but by the life you live and how well and true you live it. To keep growing, keep learning, keep improving. Not only your life, but the lives of all those around you as well.

Go Bold, Be Authentic, Be Fearless!!!!

 

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Taking Action

Do you often sit around, daydreaming about your future: what do you want to be and what do you want to achieve. You daydream consistently of a future with enough money, the perfect family vacations and a beautiful house or maybe even multiple sports cars. Your mind can become obsessed and absorbed in these daydreams. Sometimes the daydream is so big, that you insistently become overwhelmed with it. You begin to think that it can never be achieved because of the amount of work that it takes to get there. The overwhelming feeling sets you back even further from achieving it. You end up procrastinating, mulling over it, becoming depressed, thinking it’s beyond your reach and scope. You even start to convince yourself that you don’t deserve it. You accept mediocrity. The immense fear of failure grips you!

This is overthinking at its best. You end up sabotaging your own future simply because you don’t believe in yourself enough. Perhaps sometimes you may even be too lazy to take on the massive tasks in achieving your dreams. You discuss your goals with family and friends, who may even talk you out of it. Not because you can’t do it or they don’t believe in your capabilities, but simply because they do not believe in themselves.

How do we get around these road blocks?

As Tony Robbins often says, The path to success is to take massive, determined action.

Step 1: Map out the bigger picture. What is it that we truly want to achieve on our lives. Do we want to be the CEO, have our own business, study a new language, or even perhaps completely change your career. Write it down and get it out of your mind and onto a piece of paper. This starts to make the ideas more realistic. No idea is too big or small. This may even eliminate some ideas as they don’t seem to fit into the picture.

Step 2: Do your research. There are probably people that have already done what you want to do. Study them and what they have done to get there. Make a list of actions and skills that they have. How did they achieve massive success.

Step 3: Make use of the SMART system to break down each goal. SMART stands for: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Timeline. This puts each goal into perspective of what is truly needed to achieve it. Rank yourself in terms of what knowledge and skills you already have, and what do you still need to gain to be successful.

Step 4: Adopt tunnel vision and focus on achieving daily tasks. Make a list of tasks to achieve each night before going to bed. You will hit the ground running the next day without having to stop and think about what to do next. You will be able to sleep easier as well. Build on your tasks for each day from the day before, improving it and even researching how to better perform each task.

Its time to accountability for your dreams and for your life. You have one chance to make it happen. Why live a mediocre life, when you know you have ultimate greatness in your mind and in your heart. There are people that are less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they chose to believe in themselves.