I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a thousand times!!! Yes, I know you hate your job, I know you hate your boss and pretty much everyone around you. But do I really have to hear about it during my every waking minute. A severe pain starts to run down my shoulder as I contemplate the things I will need to say, and how I can possibly turn this situation around. Never ending worry is the first thought of my day. I was exasperated and suffering from chronic anxiety in anticipation of the monstrosity of complaining ahead of me. I could not bear it anymore, until I finally spoke up about it. Low and behold, it turned out that I was the bad guy for not having the heart to listen to the complaints all day long.
For some people, complaining is a normal way of life. It is the way they see themselves as communicating with the world around them. From the time they wake in the morning, until the time they sleep at night. Most commonly known as “Chronic Complainers”. Being around a chronic complainer can be downright draining, can influence you negatively, can have a serious effect on your emotional health and not to forget annoying and irritating. Complaining can rewire your brain so that complaining becomes a normal way of conversing with other people. Over a period of time it will be much easier for the individual to be in a negative state of mind rather than a positive.
Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus—an area of the brain that’s critical to problem solving and intelligent thought. Damage to the hippocampus is alarming, especially when you consider that it’s one of the primary brain areas destroyed by Alzheimer’s.
When you complain, your body releases the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol has harmful effects on the body. It can shift you into fight-or-flight mode by directing oxygen, blood, and energy away from everything but the systems that are essential to immediate survival. One effect of cortisol is to raise your blood pressure and blood sugar so that you’ll be prepared to either escape or defend yourself. This extra release of cortisol damages your immune system and makes you susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, anxiety and obesity.
Since human beings are inherently social creatures and we need to interact with other. Our brains naturally and unconsciously mimic the moods of those around us, particularly if we spend a great deal of time with that person. This process is called neuronal mirroring, and it’s the way we feel empathy towards others. You need to be cautious about spending time with people who complain about everything. Complainers want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves.
To summarize, these are the harmful effects of complaining:
- Can make you feel more stressed
- Damages your immune system
- Increases negativity
- Increase in anxiety and depression
- Ruins relationships
- Doesn’t achieve anything
- Keeps you stuck in a vicious circle
- Increase your negative self-worth